Little Dates With My Husband Throughout The Day

Having two kids means that time alone with my husband can be difficult to find. The nights when we are out on a bona fide date are rare enough to be a cause in themselves for celebration. I’ve come to realize that dates are partially psychological in basis. It’s a new affirmation that I’m repeating to myself. This very well may be the rationalization of someone who has been severely date-deprived since the children were born. Still, I think I may be on to something.

What is the difference between eating at a restaurant alone with my husband and eating late night cereal on the couch with my husband after the kids have gone asleep? In some ways these are very different activities but in other ways they are quite similar. At home there is no one serving us, we don’t sample new food and we don’t get dressed up. We are, however, alone and eating together. Sitting on the couch eating cereal together is like a mini-date at the restaurant, except without the fanciness and the fresh air that new surroundings bring. And not nearly enough candlelight.

Some mini-dates I’ve had with my husband recently:

  • We walked outside and looked at the stars on a clear, warm night. We brought one large glass of wine (to save on dishes) and shared it.
  • We spent the evening side-by-side typing on our computers.
  • Every night for years we have ended the day by sitting on opposite ends of the couch and massaging each other’s feet.
  • We worked in the garden side-by-side.
  • We held hands in church while our children sat in the pew in front of us with family friends.
  • We cared for our children together.

Perhaps the last one – caring for our children together – is the most romantic mini-date of all. All the candlelight in the world can’t top it.

2 thoughts on “Little Dates With My Husband Throughout The Day

  1. The perspective makes all the difference. On those nights when my husband and I are tag teaming to take care of the kids and household jobs, it feels like we are a single unit facing off against baths, bedtimes, and dirty dishes.

    1. Yes, when chaos and exhaustion run high and bedtime routines are looming, it quickly becomes apparent that your spouse is pretty much the only person who is going to help you. It’s like you’re in a video game together fighting off aliens, only the aliens are…life. Fighting off aliens together is totally a date. :)

Share your thoughts!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s